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Sphere: Related ContentYes You Can! Emotional Intelligence For Living… In A Podcast
May 20, 2008 | Leave a Comment
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Sphere: Related ContentEmotional Intelligence - Awareness At The Speed Of Life
May 20, 2008 | Leave a Comment
Fast! Fast! Fast! You live in a fast world. If you are like most people you speed through the minutes, hours and days of your life trying to keep up: With whom? With What?
With everything. “I’ve got a lot to do today,” you say. “I’m running late you say.” “I’m behind,” you say. Run. Run. Run. Sound familiar?
You may be racing through life trying to keep up, but the speed of life keeps accelerating. People tell me, at work they have more to do and less time to do it in. And aided by technology, change happens at a faster and faster pace.
In today’s world, you are not trotting down life’s country lane as in a one-horse buggy, you are roaring down life’s super highway as in a 1000 hp turbo charged race car.
And there’s an interesting little problem…. you are frequently driving blind.
That’s right. You often may not know where you are going, or even why you are going there. And you often you don’t see the pitfalls ahead. Why? Because, you are not aware.
You are often not are not aware of the emotions that influence your thoughts and your choices. You are often not aware of the subtle but powerful forces that compel your behaviors. As a result you may not be fully aware of the choices you make that determine your results.
“Wait a minute” you say, “I am pretty aware.” Well if you are you are in the minority. In the last 15 years I have worked with thousands of people and completed emotional intelligence assessments on hundreds of them, and most had very low ability to recognize and understand their emotions. In fact, if you are like most, you are not even aware of what you are not aware of.
But, this is not about keeping score or judging you, I am trying to make a point that is important to you no matter how aware you are.
In today’s world, living without awareness is like racing in the dark without headlights.
I doubt if you would get in your car tonight and drive at 100 mph down a dark road without headlights. So, why would you do that with your life?
Consider this, what you are aware of empowers you. What you are unaware of has the power to control you and sabotage your success and happiness.
Here’s an example: Read more
Sphere: Related ContentEmotional Intelligence - Who has more, men or women?
May 14, 2008 | Leave a Comment
Often participants in my EQ workshops have asked, “Well aren’t women naturally more emotionally intelligent than men. My answer , based on my experience of coaching men and women over the years has been, “Not necessarily.” I have found that both men and women have their unique strengths and their unique lessons to be learned. What it finally comes down to is that using emotional intelligence is a choice.
Gifted writer Barbara Ehrenreich makes that point very well in this article, using the Democratic candidates:
Barbara’s Blog
“Hillary Clinton smashed the myth of innate female moral superiority in the worst possible way – by demonstrating female moral inferiority. We didn’t really need her racial innuendos and free-floating bellicosity to establish that women aren’t wimps. As a generation of young feminists realizes, the values once thought to be uniquely and genetically female – such as compassion and an aversion to violence – can be found in either sex, and sometimes it’s a man who best upholds them.”
Who has more emotional intelligence men or women? What do you think?
Joseph Liberti
Sphere: Related ContentEmotional Intelligence - Confronting What’s True
May 13, 2008 | 2 Comments
Use emotional intelligence to deal with your fears of confrontation.
Reflections from a coaching conversation yesterday:
Client: “I thought his web site was not clear and complete and people were not getting the correct information they needed. I didn’t say anything because I didn’t want to hurt his feelings.”
What’s Really Going On?
Have you ever said or thought something like that? Consider this perspective: Who is that statement really about? “I don’t want to say anything that would hurt his feelings,” is really saying. “I don’t want to say anything that would risk hurting my feelings.”
It affirms that you actually do have control over other’s feelings and they have control over yours. Neither is really true. No one can make you feel anything unless you choose it. You are each responsible for your own, thoughts feelings and actions.
Try This: If you are in that situation and looking for a differnt approach try this:
Reflect: Identify your real feelings when you anticipate confrontation. (Don’t just stop at “I’m uncomfortable” or “It’s unpleasant.” Go to the deeper level of feeling you really don’t want to feel. Maybe it’s the sadness of loneliness you don’t want to feel if the confrontation were to result in you being left alone.)
Label: Put a name to the feeling and claim ownership of it. It’s about you, not them. Saying and accepting the feeling gives you more command of your self.
Re-Frame - In the context of serving others: What can you say that would serve this person?
Re-Structure – In the context of possibility: Put your statement in the form of a question. EG
- What affect do you think this website copy has on potential clients?
- What would happen if this said…?
- I found this easy section easy to misunderstand. What if others were having the same difficulty?
- Is there another way of saying this?
How do you deal with confronting what’s true? What works for you? What doesn’t?
Joseph Liberti
Sphere: Related ContentEmotional Self Awareness
May 8, 2008 | Leave a Comment
How aware are you of your emotions?
In what way would it be valuable for you to be fully aware of your emotions? How would that improve your life or work?
Well, any moment or situation either at work or in the rest of your life, includes these components: What you think, what you feel and what you do. Emotions are what move you to action – for better or worse. The very name comes from the Latin “e motere” or to move. If emotions move you, wouldn’t it be a good idea to know how?
To be most powerful and effective, you must be aware of your emotions and how they influence your thoughts and actions. But how do you learn to do that, especially when you have been trained not to?
That’s right, trained not to. You see, your biological potential for sensing and feeling emotions is huge but you have been socialized to regard logic as valuable and emotion as not. As a child you were told. “stop that crying there’s nothing wrong with you.” And in the workplace you were trained to “leave your emotions at the door.” We were told that emotions cloud decision-making. It is not emotion that clouds decision-making but the misuse of emotion. In fact, even an accountant looking at a financial spreadsheet filled with numbers must use her emotional brain to give context and meaning to what she is seeing.
So to overcome the social bias and reclaim your natural sensibility you must consciously choose to be aware. And you must choose to train yourself to sense, understand and use emotions to your advantage.
Try this: In any situation stop and ask your self, what am I feeling right now? How is that feeling affecting my thoughts?
As you focus your attention on your emotions you will increase your awareness and begin to command emotions and use them as information for decision-making and not just something that happens to you.
Joseph Liberti, EQ At Work
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